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Life in General

“The bluest sky is infinitely high and crystal clear…

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…that is what the world should be–a world of infinite possibilities, laid before us, crystal clear.”

Gentatsu, Rurouni Kenshin (Movie)

Ain’t it grand? The mystery of how the sky and the sea kisses, forming an inifinite horizon. Like lovers forever holding each other and never letting go? It makes you wonder how life can be so cruel but at the same time so awe inspiring and wonderful.

You can always ask too many questions and never get all the answers. You can always say goodbye and yet couldn’t let go.  Still after all of it..after all the hardships, at the end of the day, you are reminded that there’s a big world out there. Happiness is just lurking around the corner  waiting for you to open your eyes and see it for the first time.

Hence, life can be a crazy, whirlwind, roller coaster ride, but it’s so damn grand, ain’t it?

— All me being sentimental by the sea.

Sending you cat hugs from across the web! Thanks for dropping by, till next time! 🙂
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Life in General

8 Ways On How To Keep A Geeky Boyfriend (And why they are worth keeping cause #MayForever)

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You find yourself with all his Battlestar Galactica DVDs and stuck with that life-sized Stormtrooper and hey, posted in your ref calendar is that cosplay event this weekend – yet you simply love all of it just because it’s his. So now that you are ready for that #mayforever, you are looking for ways on how to keep him – for good. That’s why i’m here, I’ll be sharing with you some of the tips I learned from mine. 🙂

  • Communication is (always) key. –  Just like in any relationship you should be able to speak your mind about what, where, why, when and how you like things done in your relationship. Never ask him to read between the lines because chances are he’ll just give you a blank stare hence you will end up frustrated all the time.  Be direct and tell him exactly what you want and exactly what it means.
  • Learn to listen to his interests and relate to it. – When he shows you that Youtube videos about tanks fighting, game reviews, and that tutorial of that new gadget he’s been eyeing on for months now – be genuinely interested. He is opening up to you and treat it as a privilege cause that actually means you have earned his trust. Sometimes, what he shows you are actually quite interesting. You learn something new everyday.
  • Try not to hurt his feelings.  – He can be very sensitive, trust me. Try not to comment on his gaming skills or tell him that ‘you’ve-been-playing-all-day-why-not-try-to-help-around-the-house‘  or simply interjecting on his knowledge about computers. He is usually very passionate so don’t go around bursting his bubble. Remember that his passion for whatever it is he is into actually translates to the way he handles his relationship. Treasure the affection he is giving you cause rest assure that the appreciation he has for you is incomparable. Know that sensitivity equals romantics, don’t all girls want that?
  • Always give him his  needed alone time. – This is actually a healthy process and necessary for any type of relationship to work. Giving him space to finish that game he just bought yesterday will in turn result to him coming with you to the parlor and waits  for 5 hours just to get your hair done. No complaints, whatsoever. It’s a give and take relationship – see it’s very healthy?

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  • Remind him about intimacy. – He will never forget your special dates  – monthsaries, anniversaries, first kiss, first dates etc. but sometimes you have to wrap your arms around him and remind him that intimacy is  available. It does not necessarily mean that he is uninterested if you don’t get some in a week (if you know what i mean), it’s just that he is too engrossed in that Startrek series he’s been waiting to complete for ages. Once you were able to lure him away from the computer..fireworks that’s what’s next.
  • Celebrate your common ground.– If you like to read Nicholas Sparks novels and he loves his Dungeons and Dragons books,let him sit on the couch and lay your head on his lap while reading together. Thanks to Game of Thrones and Walking dead marathon you have those great date nights. Watching his Macross anime series after you’ve watched  two Ghibli movies makes those long weekends the best. You will be able to share great moments together by doing what each of you likes to do most. It’s a win-win.

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  • Teach him about life. – You might have nabbed that shy and inexperienced guy out of his comfort zone so do teach him a little about life, and learn together. Go to places you’ve both never been to. Try and go on different adventures like parasailing or do that longest zip-line and climb mountains. You may just simply stroll in a mall and go to hobby shops and surprise him with those model tanks or giant model ships (if you can afford it) or just go to the beach and let time pass you by doing nothing together. Let him know that there is a great big world out there which you both can share as a couple. Cause if you are dating  an ‘almost’ geeky guy, i’m pretty sure you are both in it for the long haul.
  • Lastly, and the most important of all – love him unconditionally as he does you.

#MayForever right? 🙂

*This article is inspired by the boyfriend. 🙂

Sending you cat hugs from across the web! Thanks for dropping by, till next time! 🙂32H

Life in General

HOW TO REALLY KNOW SOMEONE QUESTIONS TAG – VOLUME 2

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Want to get to know me just a little bit better? Here goes another round of my answers to ‘How to really know someone questions tag’.

8. Have you ever blown your top? Why? 

– A lot of times, it just doesn’t show that much cause I’m pretty good at hiding feelings.

9. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?

– I’d probably be 24 years old haha 🙂 What do you think?

10. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?

– I guess I’d just keep quiet however if f they say something that’s not true about my friend I would definitely correct them.

11.If you could paint a picture of any scenery you’ve seen before, what would you paint?

– A girl and a boy holding hands, leaning by a tree on a hill under a starry sky. I saw this in one of my favorite anime series I’ve watched and this actually reflects most of what I want in a relationship – that magical feeling of contentment and intimacy and being one with nature. Of course, there should be a cat sleeping nearby on the ground. 🙂

12. In the case of prevention of overpopulation, should some people be prohibited from reproducing?

– I think the only solution to overpopulation problem is people needs to be more responsible with their actions – family planning is a must.

13. You discover that because of a mix-up at the hospital, your wonderful one-year-old child is not yours. Would you want to exchange the child to try to correct the mistake?

– Yes I would. It’s the only right thing to do no matter how painful it would be.

14. Have you ever seen a person, an animal, or something else die? How did you feel about it?

– When two of our orange tabby cats died, Mingming and Mok-chan. Both of them became a part of our family and we had this habit of always carrying them like a baby. They would actually pretend they don’t like being carried and cuddled but they actually loved it (i know this for a fact because they would freeze and wag their tails when we cudldle them and would not even go away when we want them to haha).  Mingming is actually Mok-chan’s dad and they both act alike aside from looking exactly the same (‘macho’ is what we call them).

I will never ever forget the day they died. Mingming died of stomach illness while Mok-chan got hit by a car. I felt like they both waited for me to come home before passing away. I brushed Mingming’s fur and told him he can go so that he won’t have to be in pain  anymore and a few minutes after that, he passed away.

The day of Mok-chan’s accident, we were told by our neighbors that he was hit by a car and he took off somewhere. My mom looked for him everywhere but can’t find him. When I got home, I called out to him and he answered. We found him in a very critical state and we knew there really is nothing we can do. We brought him home and I stayed beside him until finally his eyes went blank.

Those were probably some of the worst days of my life. I miss them so much even if it’s been more than 3 years already and it still hurts just remembering it. I loved those two so much that I would probably visit cat heaven when my time comes so that I could carry them like a baby again. *cried a little bit while writing this portion* 🙁

There it goes! Please do look forward to my next batch. For the list of all the questions, visit this tumblr site. Thank you also to this blog series from Corinth.

Feel free to answer the questions above and do leave a comment about it, I would love to hear from you!

Sending you cat hugs from across the web. Till next time! 🙂

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Life in General

How To Really Know Someone Questions Tag – Volume 1

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I seriously want you guys to get to know me better so I’ve been browsing thru the net thinking of what to write next to better introduce myself to you . I came across Corinth‘s How to Really Know Someone Questions Tag and I found it quite interesting, The series of questions are kinda hard and will make you think before answering them. There are over 100 questions and I will be answering truthfully  seven questions per post, without further ado here it goes:

1. How do you feel about birthdays?

– It should be the most celebrated occasion – it’s your birthday after all! The one day which you can say to the world that “this is my day” and nothing and no one can ruin it! Lucky you if you get to have your birthday on 24th of December (like mine), cause the  rest of the world are celebrating it with you  hehe 🙂

2. Do you believe in fate?

– Yes I do. I believe that all these circumstances were written in the stars. Best to just go with it but still try to make all the right decisions in the now, you don’t know what will happen in the future so still following the right path wouldn’t hurt right?

3. What do you think when a band/artist “sells out”?

–  At one point in our lives we make that decision to sacrifice something we believe in for that greater opportunity just because we need to have a decent way of living. It’s a fault but unfortunately it is a must when the need calls for it so I really can’t blame them.

4. What do you think of fans and fandoms?

– Well I’m a fan of Johnny Depp but I don’t obsess over him. I dunno, I guess it depends on the level of fandom.

5. Any specific personality traits you would like to see in your life partner?

– Someone kind, loving, cute, patient and with a sense of humor. My Bes have all of those and a whole lot more! Lucky me! 🙂

6. Should parents be their child’s friends?

– Yes. This is something I intend to do when I do have child(ren) of my own. I don’t want fear to be the foundation of our relationship. I think that being a friend to your child would strengthen your family ties and would make communication the top priority. I grew up in fear so I turned out quite dysfunctional. I had a hard time communicating with people (still do), I open up to only  a select few and I made a lot of wrong decisions (way back). I don’t blame my parents for it, I respect and love them. I somehow blame myself because I distanced myself from my family- so i guess most of the blame falls on me.

7. What do you think of doctor-assisted suicide?

– A hard one.  I’m praying to never encounter this or with any of my loved ones. I’m not against it but not for it either, I just guess when you’re in that situation your heart will tell you the right thing to do.

All the ‘How to really know someone questions’ can be found at this tumblr post. Thank you guys for sticking around! Feel free to answer the questions above and do leave a comment about it, I would love to hear from you!

Post above inspired by explorewithcorinth‘s How to Really Know Someone Questions Tag. 

Sending you cat hugs from across the web. Till next time! 🙂

32H

Life in General

All About Moving Out – Is it now time to take that big leap to adulthood?

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I was once asked “what is the best decision you ever made in your life?”, without hesitation I answered – moving out of my parents’ house. Don’t get me wrong, I love my mom and my dad and I miss them a lot but I never regret taking that big leap. We Filipinos have that family oriented culture wherein we stay with our parents at least until we are at the right age to get married and have our own family. Most of us however are craving that western liberal notion of independence. Of course, some of us do it not because we want to but because we need to. Maybe it’s work related or it’s plainly just about time.

It’s been four years since I decided to exploit my independence and try to make it on my own. I’ve had my share of doubts and fears, of bliss and excitement cause hey, you now have that scary big wide world to deal with, so flying out of your nest is a guaranteed cause of extreme emotions.

So for all of you brave souls out there, here are some tips to help you decide if it’s now time to move out of your comfort zone and how to keep your new found liberty in order.

Always think twice – thrice – before making the decision.

Ask yourself this – Am I ready to be self-dependent? Do I have the means to support myself? Am I moving out for the right reasons? If you can honestly answer Yes to all of these questions then congratulations to you. You are now off to a world of sacrifices and on to the next..

Moolah – Yes, it’s a VERY big factor (unless your parents will finance you then that’s not independence – and this post is not for you).

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Before anything else you must have a stable source of income. Your parents might be all generous at first and hand you that “starter kit” to your independence but hey, it’s your decision to move out. Support yourself – financially! Your parents have done enough for you and it’s now time to learn how to budget your own expenses. Let them enjoy life again now that you’re out of their hands.

Remember those basic needs of an individual we learned in grade school – shelter, food, water and clothing? You need to pay for those now without mom and dad. Oh, and don’t forget all the other requirements for you to have a decent way of living like appliances, furniture and cleaning products and lastly the most important one for me – you still need to SAVE ten percent (preferably more) of your income every month. Still think you’re ready? If yes, then It’s now time to..

Find the right place – not perfect – just ‘right’.

When I decided to move out, I was simply wasn’t ready. I joined my sorority sisters in looking for an apartment in Makati for the reason that it’s such a hassle to commute. Braving the rush hour riding an MRT is a big no-no for me (I’m pretty sure most of you can relate to #MRTchronicles). My parents did not approve yet the stubborn child in me went anyway. I packed my stuff  and rented this two-bedroom unit together with five other girls. I love my housemates but the apartment? Well what can I say.. I think we were able to see all of the crawling, gliding, walking, flying, running insects and rodents in Manila. Who knows, we might have discovered a new species of insect? So after more than a year of living with friends (whom I miss so much) and those nasty crawlers (which I hope I’d never encounter again), I decided to move out and live on my own and this time, I followed all the right rules.

When searching for a place remember to take your time. Don’t rush into it. You don’t want to get stuck with something crappy just because you signed a contract of lease right away. List all your requirements but remember not all of it will be met. My advise – (1) know your budget, (2) find the right place with a good neighborhood, and when you found one you think might fit the first two (3) don’t forget to inspect the unit from top to bottom and every corners. Never be afraid to ask any questions. This will save you from a lot of regret.

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Hide a spare key – not just one but two. 

Once you’ve found that one place you know you won’t regret living in, what would be the first thing on your to-do list? Change the existing locks and add one more. Don’t sleep there on the first night with the house keys you got from your landlord. The old owner of the place might come barging at your door and opening it in the middle of the night all drunk just because you did not change the locks. Or something even worse? But seriously, change it and remember to always lock the door and close the windows when you’re not at home. Safety and security is of utmost importance and yep, hide a spare key. There is a really good chance that you might lock yourself out so I recommend to have spare keys. Give it to someone you trust or leave one in your office.

Choose your housemates/flatmates wisely.

Seventy percent of you who are planning to move out will be living with a housemate to cut on rental and living expenses. This is totally fine as long as you are comfortable with the person you will be living with. Just remember that there are also a lot of adjustments you need to do when living with a housemate that is not at all related to you. Their preferences and living habits may be way different than yours and there will be disagreements. Communication is the key to having a harmonious relationship with your housemates. You will then come to realize that it’s so fun to be with them especially at the end of a rough day. Just sharing a good laugh makes all the negative vibes go away.

Do your own laundry, wash those dirty dishes and clean that bathroom.

Don’t be lazy. Move your butt and clean. You embraced adulthood so love whatever it comes with and that includes doing your own chores. Please don’t let those dirty laundry sit for one month, that’s just gross.

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Set up rat traps and kill cockroaches.

Somehow those nasty crawlers and squeaking furred animal will get inside your most loved place. What to do? Kill them. The only good roach is a dead roach! They’re pests so killing is acceptable.

Since your mom is not there to scold you into eating healthy foods, you can now have take outs and canned goods every night.

Please don’t. I repeat – please don’t.
You don’t want to look back one day while you’re at your deathbed at the age of 40 and say “I regret having those salty fries and Pancit Canton for dinner, please take me back. I still want to live longer”.

Learn to cook for yourself and cook healthy food. This is also a very good skill to teach your future children.

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Learn how to use that screw driver and wrench.

The only two things my dad gave to me when I decided to live on my own is his old hammer and screw driver (+). It’s basically saying,“you will need these now so go and learn to fix stuff on your own”. Prepare to face days when you impulsively buy that bookshelf which you would need to assemble on your own. Just have a toolbox handy with all the basic tools in it, you’ll never know when you’re gonna need it.

Prepare for emergencies.

1) First aid kit and a fire extinguisher (seriously even a small one wouldn’t hurt).

2) Extra bottles of water and easy to cook food

3) Candles, matches, flash lights and a whistle.

4) That basic AM radio – yes, AM where there is actually news to hear.

**above list c/o the boyfriend 🙂

Find ways to attract cats.

Just what people say, “cats are like chips, you can’t have just one.”
Or dogs, whatever.
I guess what I want to say is just know how to keep yourself entertained. Remember that moving out means having a LOT of alone time (unless if the boyfriend/girlfriend comes over). picisto-20150725082732-242599
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**photo above taken from cats,cats everywhere

Decorate and invest in good furniture and appliances.

This will actually validate that your decision to move out is successful. Because you do have some spare money to buy those nice furniture that matches your wall and that flat screen TV you’ve been eyeing on for months now.

Love your neighbors.

Keep a healthy relationship with them because they can help you when you need small favors. Just like when you need to ask for a little salt to put in your Chopsuey just because you’re too lazy to go out and buy one.

Never be afraid to ask for help.

There will come a time in your journey of independence when you’ve used up all your resources. Maybe you decided to quit your job because you’re burnt out at work and you realized that you don’t have enough savings to get you by that two to three months of unemployment. You then finally admit that it’s now time to ask help from your parents or friends. Go ahead and ask for help. Just remember to pay them back when you’ve managed to get back on your feet. Don’t be afraid to make the wrong choices because that is where you will learn – it’s part of being independent. 

Now that you’ve established that you’re ready to move out, you have nothing else to do but enjoy your new found freedom. I know I am! 🙂

There you go guys, I hope I was able to help some of you out there who’s contemplating if it’s time to take that big leap to adulthood. With an open mind and a little courage, you will surely be on your way. Wishing you enjoyed this one and feel free to comment about anything under the sun.

Sending you cat hugs from across the web. Till’ next time! 🙂

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